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Is Sex After Pregnancy Really That Enjoyable?

If you’ve never been pregnant before, you may be concerned that post-pregnancy sex may not be as enjoyable as it once was. Indeed, you do undergo a lot of physical, as well as emotional, changes during pregnancy. Once that new baby arrives and you begin to care for him or her, you may find that sex is the farthest thing from your mind.

In fact, getting back into the swing of things mentally and emotionally can take longer than getting back in the swing of things physically. Taking care of a small child is very tiring and it’s hard to feel like engaging in sexual activity if you’re tired. Taking care of a small child also involves a lot of physical contact with the baby and you may reach a point where you feel “touched out.” You should know, however, that these feelings are common and will pass. As your child becomes a few months old and begins sleeping through the night, you’ll be better rested. Your life will once again develop a routine and you’ll begin to feel less stress. In these circumstances, your libido will bloom once again.

If you’ve received the OK from your doctor to resume sexual activity, but find that you have no desire, talk with your doctor. Many women suffer from hormonal issues following birth – particularly problems with the thyroid. Your doctor can help you address other health or emotional issues you may be having as well.

If you were able to achieve orgasm before and during pregnancy, you should have no problems achieving orgasm after pregnancy. In fact, some women become orgasmic for the first time during pregnancy due to the increased blood flow to the pelvic region and genitals. For many women, it becomes easier to achieve orgasm – even multiple orgasms – following pregnancy. That’s certainly something to look forward to during those long final weeks of pregnancy!

In addition, some women worry that their vagina will feel “stretched out” after they’ve given birth. However, the vaginal canal is designed to be very elastic – capable of accommodating a baby, as well as a penis. If you regularly perform kegel exercises, you won’t feel “stretched out” and will find penetration feels as rewarding as before for both yourself and your partner.

Many women are also concerned that sex after pregnancy will hurt – especially if they’ve had an episiotomy. If you’ve had an episiotomy, wait until it has fully healed and your doctor has said it’s OK to resume sexual activity before you try to have sex. When that time comes, make sure that you’re relaxed and very aroused. Many couples find it helpful to use a lubricant when having sex for the first time after pregnancy. Ask your partner to be gentle and proceed slowly, and you should have no problems.

It’s also very important that you use a form of birth control from the first time you have sexual intercourse after pregnancy if you don’t want to have another child right away. Don’t wait for your period to return to indicate you’re fertile, as you usually become fertile several weeks before your period arrives. More than one woman has conceived a child from failing to plan for that first time back in the saddle – use protection if you aren’t yet ready to relive your pregnancy experience.